I've come to notice in my 33 years on this earth that the BIGGEST factor holding me back from achieving my goals was none other than the one and only ME! I was being my own worst enemy. Had anyone else spoke to me the way I was speaking to myself, I probably would of punched them in the face (I really don't condone violence). Luckily I realized what I was doing and actively made an effort to change my thinking before living that way my entire life!
Today I am going to share 3 tips that I used to help get that negative self talk under control!
#1 Recognize it's there!!
I'm sure many of you are reading this thinking, "what the hell is she talking about? I don't talk to myself...that shit is crazy!"....well do you realize that you are talking to yourself right there?? Just sayin'...
So lets just be honest here it is human nature to talk to ourselves in our head and more often than not it is self limiting talk. Whether it be something as little as obsessing over a new pimple in the mirror or as big as telling yourself to not go to an interview because you aren't qualified, there is a little voice in your heard dictating your life. So lets recognize it and introduce ourselves so we can tell that little shit where to go!
Here is what I want you to do, take one day where you pay attention to every single little negative thing that voice in your head says and I want you to write it down somewhere...make a list throughout the day. At the end of the day I want you to find the cutest little kid, old person, or cat that you can find, sit them down and then read that list to them as if you are speaking to them.
How do you feel saying those things to someone else? Can you do it? Would you do it? My guess is going to be NO, you would NOT tell a child, grandma, or cute little animal all the horrible things that you tell yourself. So why are you talking to yourself that way??
Step #2 Replace The Negative with Positive!
Take another day to pay attention to all the negative things you are saying to yourself, but THIS TIME I want you to stop yourself dead in your tracks when you start to say something negative and replace it with something positive. Now we are retraining your brain. This step is going to take A LOT of time and practice because we are so trained to think in a negative way, but it will be well worth it! I STILL do this step....
Step #3 Do Personal Development!!
Step number 3 is something that we should all be doing anyway because it greatly improves your quality of life, sparks new ideas, and helps you grow as a person BUT you should definitely be doing this is you suffer from constant negative thoughts. Don't make excuses like you don't like to read or whatever because there are LOTS of forms of personal development. There are movies, videos, books, podcasts, classes, and a bunch of other shit that I'm sure you could find through a simple google search. Seriously...this is such a crucial part of feeling good in your own skin, and exercising that brain of yours...so DO IT!
In all seriousness negative self talk is bull shit! We have enough backlash and resistance from other people, don't add to it yourself. When you get yourself in the right mindset you are capable of amazing things! One of my favorite quotes is, "Whether you think you can, or you think you can't...you are right" and I know it is cliche but it's the damn truth!
Go out and take some steps to change your thinking and start believing in yourself!!